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A Message to The Younger Me ...

If I could go back in time and have a chat with the younger me what would I say to myself? What advice would I give? ...

I remember a friend once saying to me she always felt like the ugly duckling and always waited to turn into the swan, it didn't occur to me until she said it, that I had felt exactly the same. I had often felt a little invisible and not quite big and bright enough, or that everyone else might be able to do it better. I can see now upon reflection that it is just human reaction and it is okay to feel like that.

So often in my life I didn't feel brave enough to do big things and felt so scared, but what I can recognise now is that I did them anyway, I just didn't realise it.


I just kept taking small steps and that all led me to where I need to be, it really was that simple.

Of course like everyone my story wasn't always as it may look right now. I remember being trapped in a job I didn't want to be in, feeling frustrated that life was passing me by, but not really knowing what I wanted or needed and this preoccupied me for hours. The sad thing I realise now is that I LET life pass my by at that time, all the hours wasted that I can never get back, I wish I could have been more present with my children and family and worried less.

I spent a lot of my time worrying about what people thought or trying to make other people happy. Of course I love to help people nothing gives me greater joy, but back then it felt it was my job to make them happy and to please them. I can see now often in pleasing them I wasnt looking after me and I would take a backseat.

So what would I say to the younger me?

  • You've got this and you can do it, step by step

  • If you are frightened do it anyway because it will always work out

  • Dont be scared of saying no, that is okay

  • Enjoy the moment it will soon pass

  • Not everyone can like you don't worry about it you won't like everyone either

  • Trust the energy - vibes tell you what your logical mind won't!

  • The things you are worrying about now you might not care about in the future

  • Love your people with all their heart and prioritise them

  • It is those craziest moments the real inspiration will come

  • It is after your darker moments the biggest empowerment will grow

  • You already are a swan

So as I reflect back I am so happy and grateful to be where I am and love that fact that my journey is constantly evolving and changing. I never really set out to be where I am today, I just let each day unfold as it needed to, which is most definitely the way I like to play it now as it lets me be in the present moment and I trust with all my heart I am and always will be guided. I am blessed and grateful and each day count my lucky stars, I have a good life, wonderful family and friends and I get to live my dream, but inside I am just little old me but instead of that being a negative I love that!

Why? Because I am free to be me and that feels amazing, if it is true for me then I know it is true for you too...

So what would you say to your younger self ? What would your reflections be?

We all grow up to be the swan, we might feel like the ugly duckling, but we all get there in the end it is a process that is guaranteed, we just have to believe in it! 💜

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Sandra Scoular Prev Follin
Sandra Scoular Prev Follin
09 de fev. de 2021

I love this Debra. We would all like a chat with our younger self. I love the hair. 💞


Natasha Azadi
Natasha Azadi
09 de fev. de 2021

You have and always be amazing, Just look at how many people you inspire daily and even back when you thought you were a little lost, so many people most likely looked at you, with such hope and wonder, you will have gave them a push to become their bestselves.

Never change because you are you and that is the most awesome gift the universe has given us all. Xxx


I think my daughter needs to read this. It’s so hard atm x


Debra Chalmers  Spiritual Medium

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